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A Letter to my Children on Valentine’s Day

A Letter to my Children on Valentine’s Day | Faith and Composition

You’re looking forward to Valentine’s Day. You’ve told me already. You’re looking forward to chocolate and cards and candy. But this year, I want to tell you a little something about love.

Although Valentine’s is a day to celebrate love, love isn’t confined to a date on the calendar. Nor is it a sentiment written on a card, a feeling, or an embrace. Love is a choice. It is a choice to choose you every day: the hard days, the easy days, the monumental days, the monotonous days. Love says I choose you, and I always will. 

I choose to serve you, to hold you, to hear you, to support you, to encourage you. I choose to give you shelter, rest, a safe place. I choose to double your laughter and share your tears. I choose to walk with you when the road is easy and to shoulder your burden when the journey is rough.

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Life will bring you both joy and heartache. People will befriend you and shun you. You will have great successes and desperate disappointments. You will laugh much, and you will cry much. But no matter the circumstances, no matter the feelings that storm inside, I will love you always.

You can never do anything to earn my love, and likewise you can never do anything to lose it. It just is … steady as the sun rising in the morning. It is and it will be.

Time and time again, with every sunrise and every sunset, I choose to love you. You can write that upon your heart, my dear. I love you because God has placed a fierceness inside a mother’s heart that cannot be shaken. He has given you to me as my child, and from the very first moment that He knit you together inside my womb, I have loved you with a force that defies description.

And today, I want you to know that as much as I love you, the God who formed your inmost parts, who knows the very number of hairs atop your head, He loves you more. Though we can scarcely fathom a love like that, it is true. He loves you with a width and a depth that spanned the cross and conquered the grave.

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Can you understand that, dear one? Do you hear how much HE LOVES YOU?  He went to the cross for you; he bore your sins upon himself and he took your punishment so that you could experience eternal fellowship with the Father. This is the ultimate expression of love. God bending low to give his son so that the son in turn might give his very life away for you.

“This is real lovenot that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.– 1 John 4:10 (NLT)

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God has given you to me as my child, and I will always love you. But better still is the love the Father has for you. For He has given Himself to you, and you are His.

“But now, this is what the LORD sayshe who created you, Jacob, he who formed you, Israel: “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.” – Isaiah 43:1 (NIV)

Note: I have written this so that I can give it to each of my children on Valentine’s day, but it is my hope that should you like it, you may choose to give it to your children as well. Print it out as is, or change some of the language to suit adoption or as your needs may warrant, but please feel free to pass this onto your own children. All that I ask is that you do not reprint this online in its entirety. If you would like to share online, please link back to this original post. Thank you!

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How to Love a Husband When You Feel You’ve Nothing Left to Give {in honor of Valentine’s day}

How to Love a Husband When You Feel You've Nothing Left to GIve | Faith and Composition
He pulls in after a day at work, and the house is in a state of organized chaos. The older two kiddos have constructed an obstacle course in the living room, which they quickly abandoned for a game of their own creation: one sits on a blanket and the other pulls her around the tile. It’s the closest thing they get to sledding in Texas, and it’s both hysterically endearing and maddening; the latter because they insist on running through the kitchen, where I’m trying to prepare dinner. The baby stands at my feet yelling for attention, so I scoop her up and use my one free hand to sweep onions into a pot, fragrant with butter.

I hear the garage door open, and I haven’t the energy nor the freedom to go meet him. “Daddy’s home; run and give him a hug,” I yell.

The older two pile topsy turvy into his six-foot-four frame, a tangle of arms and legs, punctuated by kisses and squealing. It’s a sweet scene, a welcome greeting for a man who deserves it. But I don’t greet him with the same fervor; because, lets be honest … I’m exhausted, poured-out, and I haven’t much left to give at 6 pm.

He walks in, and I give him a peck. “Can you take her?”, I ask, passing the baby into his arms. He obliges and begins his nightly routine of distracting the children and helping to clean up their trail of destruction so I can finish dinner. His love language is service, so it’s not a big stretch for him, but there’s a conviction in my spirit that whispers: he deserves more. This husband who provides for my needs and takes me as I am, who vowed to forsake all others for me. This man who encourages my hopes and supports my dreams, the one with whom I get the privilege of walking this great adventure, he deserves more than my left-overs.

But here’s the tension, the daily battle; mothering little ones is an all-consuming laying down of self for the needs of our children, and by the time the witching hour rolls around, we’re empty. We’ve poured ourselves out only to find that there’s not a whole lot left to give our husbands.

This isn’t just my own personal struggle. I’ve talked with some of you; you sense the tension too. Even if you’re not a mom, heavy circumstances, weighty demands, busy commitments, financial stress, illness … they can all suck us dry.

So how do we love our husbands well in a way that communicates both respect and affection when our energy reserves are low … nay gone? Sure, we can carve out date nights, discover his love language, speak words of affirmation, reciprocate affection. Those are good tools, but I’m not talking about a ten-step program. Instead, how do we love him well with a constancy that belies circumstances and an expression that isn’t dependent on what we’ve left to give?

We can’t love him that way when we’re empty out of our own sheer will, not authentically at least. I know; I’ve tried, and I come up short. But here’s the beautiful scandalous part, dear friend: you, me … we love the man God gave us best only by loving the God who gave him first.

How to Love a Husband When You Feel You've Nothing Left to GIve | Faith and Composition

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind,” and “Love your neighbor as yourself.” – Luke 10:27 

Sure I have moments where I meet my husband’s needs, affirm his headship, voice my feelings, show him affection; but to love him authentically, sacrificially, when I’ve nothing left to give, when I’m tired and the kids have exhausted my reserves, when the demands of the day have drained me? The only way to do that is by the grace of God.

Because when I’m poured out, when my cup is empty, when I’ve given more than I have the capacity to give, only God can fill me back up with an abundance that enables me to love extravagantly out of the excess. 

The Lord reminds us repeatedly throughout His word that He is the giver, the sustainer, the wellspring of life. He turned water into wine when the wine ran dry; he sent manna from heaven when stomachs were starved; he fed five thousand with two fish and five loaves; he gave a baby to barren Sarah; he sent His son to be born of a virgin.

“I will make rivers flow on barren heights, and springs within the valleys. I will turn the desert into pools of water, and the parched ground into springs.” – Isaiah 41:18

Do you see it, friend? God is in the business of transforming the empty and barren, turning ashes into beauty. He delights in restoring, redeeming, resurrecting. 

So if today, tomorrow, next week, next year, you want to love your husband well, but you find that you are empty and tired … turn first to the wellspring of life. For He will fill your parched spaces and poured-out places with an extravagant abundance that will overflow.

How do you show love to your husband when you’re tired? I’d love to hear from you in the comments section! Please just be considerate and adhere to the comments policy (top right sidebar) when writing.

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Valentine’s Day Breakfast and a Free Printable

A Valentine's Day Breakfast + a FREE printable valentine | Faith and Composition
Valentine’s Day is this Friday, and while I try not to over-emphasize the material aspect of the holiday, it’s certainly a good opportunity to do something a little special for the ones you love.

If you’re looking for a simple way to put a smile on their face, I have an easy, cheerful breakfast your whole family will love, PLUS a charming printable valentine to add a sweet sentiment to their day. The valentines are also a whimsical candy-free option for school parties. So dig in, and enjoy!

The Breakfast: Heart-Shaped Eggs in a Pocket

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Too simple even to be dubbed a recipe, this breakfast consists of three ingredients, four if you want to add in the side of fresh berries. It’s a super simple, nourishing way to start the day, and the heart cut-out is a sweet sentiment for the holiday. Although we typically eat homemade bread, I used an organic, whole- wheat store bought loaf for this, since it’s not as crumbly as a homemade loaf.

Simply heat a pat of butter in a sauté pan over medium heat (a cast iron pan works great for this) . Meanwhile, use a heart-shaped cookie cutter to cut a heart from the center of the bread. Once the butter is fragrant and begins to brown, lay the bread in the pan. Crack an egg, and gently pour the egg into the center of the bread. Cook until whites are nearly set (three to four minutes). Gently flip toast and egg. Cook for a few more minutes until whites are done and the yolk is cooked to your preference. Sprinkle with salt and pepper and serve with a side of berries.

FREE Printable Valentine: You’re the Bees Knees

Free Printable Valentine | Faith and Composition

Free Printable Valentine | Faith and Composition

When February 14 rolls around, I’m always on the lookout for charming valentines and candy-free treats. This year, I decided to create my own little hand-drawn valentine. This whimsical card features a watercolor beehive and a verse from proverbs. Simply print onto cardstock and cut along the trim lines. Use a hole punch to cut two holes, then thread with ribbon and tie on a honey stick. Click here to download the Bee’s Knees valentine’s cards. I hope you enjoy!

In the meantime, I’m working on a little piece for Friday titled How to Love Your Husband When You’ve Nothing Left to Give. I pray that the piece is an encouragement to your heart! And speaking of encouragement, your response to When Mothering Is Hard and No One Sees has floored me! That little piece has been read more than 100,000 times, and I am completely shocked and humbled that it has resonated with so many of you. My dear friends, I cannot begin to tell you what an incredible privilege it is to write words that move. Thank you for reading this little space; thank you for sharing! You are a source of immense encouragement and inspiration to me!

I look forward to seeing you on Friday!

(Printable valentine is ©Faith&Composition and is free for personal use only. Image may be shared and pinned as long as the image links back to this original post.)